Can People Who Were Raised By Narcissist Be Good Parents?

Being raised by narcissist parents can do a number on people. They not only make us feel like everything we do is wrong, and we are never good enough. People who go through this harrowing experience often express how they feel like they are at fault for everything that goes wrong and often find it difficult to do certain things because of their anxiety about it. This is all because they were stuck in a stressful situation for a very long time, that made them cope in different ways, many of which are not healthy at all. While many people who go through this often write off parenthood, there are other people who still wish to have children of their own and have their own little family. The question remains, will they be good parents? How will they manage the stress of raising children and what are the chances they start mirroring their parent’s behaviour and end up hurting their children? These are all valid questions and your experiences should not be discredited, neither should your feelings.

Here are some steps you should take when you are approaching parenthood and incorporate these healthy habits to have a healthy and happy home.

You must be self-aware

When you know how you were raised was not right, you must understand that you are affected by it. By understanding the impact of a narcissistic upbringing, individuals can identify and challenge negative patterns of behaviour.

Seek professional help

There is no shame in admitting that you need help. While other people may talk and make you feel bad, you must remember this is for yourself. Therapy can provide valuable tools to process past trauma and develop healthier coping mechanisms.

Practice self-care for yourself

While the idea of self-care are recently becomes more popular, there are still people who believe self-care is selfish if you have children. You must learn that prioritizing self-care allows individuals to recharge and maintain emotional well-being.

Teach them to develop empathy

Kids don’t understand emotions properly since they see things very black and white. You must teach them emotions like empathy by asking them certain questions, making them see different perspectives. By cultivating empathy, parents can better understand their children's feelings and respond with compassion.

Show them how to effectively communicate

Communication is a skill that takes years to perfect. Many people even as grown ups have difficulty communication, so you cannot expect your little child to do it properly if you are not actively teaching them. Open and honest communication fosters trust and understanding within the family.

You must show them unconditional love

One of the many traits of a narcissist parent is conditional love. All children crave their parents affection and this affects their self image a lot! Offering unconditional love and support creates a secure and nurturing environment for children. Show them you have their back at all times.

Set clear expectations from them

Children can push your boundaries in many ways. They are disruptive, misbehaving and naughty at times, these things can push you over the edge and make life very difficult for you. But it is ok, tey establishing clear boundaries and consistent consequences helps children develop a sense of structure and responsibility. They may throw fits, and cause issues but it is a necessary step you must take to be a responsible parent.